Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you...
Rule 1.
become genuinely interested in other people.
Rule 2.
Smile
" Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, " i like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you"
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
I think that smiling is very important, especially when you meet new people. Smiling just gives off the vibe that you aren't that much of a serious person and that you don't mind meeting and interacting with new people. Smiling is also good because it shows other people that you are a friendly person and it makes them more comfortable in talking to you. When you smile to others, it may also help you feel better because you feel more positive throughout the day.
Rule: Remember Names
1) " A mans name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) " If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Remembering names is really important when you meet someone for the first time. It would look really bad on your part if you were to forget their name. They might think that you aren't interested in being their friend. Some people get really offended when you forget their name or when you even call them by a different name. Remembering names is also important because you don't want people thinking that you aren't a good friend, you also don't want them to stop talking to you. Sometimes when people get called a different name, they could get sad because they might be interested into being your friend and they could get hurt by something so simple as forgetting their name. Maybe you should ask what their full name is so that they can tell you their name and you wouldn't look bad because you forgot their name.
Some simple ways to remembering people names are:
- Repeat them
- Ask them what their full name is
- Ask another person what their name is
- listen carefully when they are first telling you what their name is
If it is a unique name, ask them what the name means
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
" If you aspire to be good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
When i talk to new people, I always like to listen to their stories and i love getting to know them better. I feel like it helps you connect with them more. If you are listening to what they are saying, you might catch things that are in common between the two. I feel like if you pay attention and if you listen to them properly, they would find a high interest in you. I mostly see if people are actually paying attention to what I'm saying, other than just pretending to listen to me without even knowing what I'm talking about. If you are being a good listener, you could also help them with their problems that they are having. Some people just need to vent things out and it would be very helpful if you would just listen to them because you might be the only person that would help them.
5 Steps to good listening
- stay focused, natural eye contact, don't judge and stay patient.
- Really listen don't think about similar experiences and what you should say next.
- Allow for periods of silence. Wait till the other person speaks again.
- repeat the other persons words or paraphrase them back to them.
- Understand the emotions behind the words.
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
I don't think that this is a good idea. You should also be about to talk about your interest and to talk about yourself. Unless it is an interview then you should be about to interview yourself. Personally, I wouldn't want to talk about that person the whole entire conversation. I would like to talk about myself and to talk about my interests. I wouldn't have the patience to sit down, and to talk about just one person. Honestly, I would loose interest and I wouldn't even be listening to that person anymore.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely
" The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) " Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
I think that you should make the other person feel important. It just shows that you have an interest in them and that you care about them. People like to feel like they matter and by showing them that you care about them will make them feel better about themselves. When i am talking to someone, i would like them to show that i am important because it will make me feel better about myself and it would make me feel like the person that i am talking to likes me, in a friendly way. Making people feel important also shows that you care for others and you dont put people down.
Reflection: I feel like all of these thing will help you when you are trying to make new friends and when you meet new people. You should always show that you are a good listener and that you care about the person that you are talking to. People like to see that kind of stuff when you are talking to them. It shows that you find interest in them and it will make them like you.
